Kindness, A Guiding Light!

Shine your light and celebrate each step

“Be kinder than necessary because everyone is fighting some kind of battle” Maya Angelou

“True wealth is the ability to fully experience life”

As we welcome in October, the chilly mornings, fog bound skies and shorter days, I find myself thinking about all that I am grateful for and all the ways that my life is changing.

Perhaps it’s the influence of Thanksgiving arriving this weekend influencing my thoughts of appreciation.

This year, as I learn to make better choices, stretch my thinking and begin to acknowledge what I do well, I notice I expect even more good things to happen.

I’ve been practising expanding my sense of what is possible, letting go of things that weren’t working for me, making a conscious daily effort to notice all the good in my life and then remembering to actually celebrate those things

This one seems to be KEY- I mean really acknowledge all of your achievements, especially the tiniest action steps.

It takes a little practice and determination, but the payoff is huge!

When I’m not paying attention to what I have accomplished I get to the end of the week with a list of things still to do, and I feel so discouraged with my efforts.

And that is the thought that over-rides the memory of all the things I did get done!

I started to wonder when it became the “norm” to focus solely on the end result or the stuff that’s wrong, out of place or not going as expected.

Or, when did we start to play down our achievements or the things we do really well in favour of murmuring something like “well, it didn’t turn out that great”

Do you ever feel like this?

Do you take the time to celebrate anything you do?

Do you spend a lot of your time and energy noticing what’s not going well or what’s still on your to-do list?

It just doesn’t have to be that way!

Marion Williamson in her famous quote says
“Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened
About shrinking so that other people
Won’t feel insecure around you…
And as we let our light shine,
We unconsciously give other people
Permission to do the same.”

It’s like we’ve all entered into an unconscious agreement to hide our “lights” to protect the feelings of each other. I am quite sure that the real truth is that it does no such thing.

Back in the day when we lived in tribes, each person was expected to have a particular talent that was shared with everyone else. This gift was revered and honoured and used for the good of all, and each person was encouraged to own their talents, expand them and celebrate them!

I suppose when we started moving away from the family nucleus we had to start fending for ourselves, but thinking we need to excel in everything, has gone a little crazy hasn’t it?

So with Thanksgiving coming along perhaps if you’re having a ”pot luck”, take a moment to notice the talent in people and compliment them.

Swap recipes and have a real “celebration” of the gifts people bring to your table. Shine your light of love and appreciation for each person’s presence and … Let them shine too!

If you have taken on the whole thing yourself in some kind of duty or obligation is there any part you could let go of?

Do you have to do it all?

Even last minute calls for help will surely be received well. 🙂

Everyone loves to have the opportunity to help, so give them an opportunity to shine!

If you feel lacking  in appreciation for yourself and from others, the quickest way to get more of it – is to give it away.

Compliment somebody every day. Notice when the people around you help out or do something you like – tell them how much you appreciate their presence in your life.

As you notice how other people contribute in your life and talk about it, those people will begin to respond to you in kind. Smile at people, especially the one’s that pass you by and watch them smile back in response. We spend so much time criticising ourselves in our heads and anticipating the worst, we often barely notice the good in our lives. A kind word is rarely forgotten and its such a simple thing to offer each other.

“When you feel good, life always responds with more good”

And the simplest way that I know to begin that connection, is to reach out and connect with others. Light up someones world with heartfelt thanks and you will “feel the love returned”. Inspire someone and you will feel that inspiration sparkle in your soul, and you’ll want to do even more!

And what better time to do this than Thanksgiving!

YOU have questions? Drop me a line I’m be delighted to help.


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