Are You Living Big, or Playing Small?

Here in Southern Ontario we have been gifted with the most beautiful hot sunny days, which feels to me like an extended summer, and I am loving it.

Yet, I am noticing an increased number of clients calling lately who feel overwhelmed, stuck and feeling seriously out of sorts.

Transitions between seasons can feel awkward and at times debilitating. We get slowed down, stuck in a rut and lack the motivation or enthusiasm to haul ourselves out of these places.

Are you finding your days spent being endlessly busy and then look back and can’t quite figure out any specific accomplishments?

If we’re not being preoccupied with work and family, we’re distracted by smart phones, irritated with dumb politicians, frustrated and cross, not sleeping well and struggling to just get things done.

I was reading last week about the energy of the Autumn equinox and that this week our Souls are calling to us to cease our labors and pause a while.
It seems to me this is the perfect time for perching on the porch steps in the gathering twilight under the harvest moon.
A time for bidding farewell to another summer while savouring it’s last magical moments and creating a little space in your day where you’re free from the demands of daily life.

Other feelings that are not uncommon during the transition between seasons…

  • A feeling of being completely out of step with yourself or your life.
  • Self-doubt moves in as an unwelcome house-guest.
  • Painful non-stop negative thinking and self criticism
  • Overwhelm, procrastination and indecision that are constant companions.

Whatever way it shows up for you, here are a few ideas that could help you shift the heaviness and get you back in the game.

In addition notice your sleep, eating and drinking patterns, you may need to pay lots more attention to your own self care for a while.

Facing and identifying the cause of the Blahs isn’t always easy. You may need to call a friend or engage with an accountability partner or a Coach to help you find your starting point.

It takes honesty and courage to look at your life and identify the thought patterns and stumbling places holding you captive.

Having a supportive partner makes the journey so much easier.

1. Do something new & simple and stick with it for the week: Make lots of reminders, stickers, notes, program your phone, call up a friend and engage her in an accountability partnership. Pay attention to how your energy and attention shifts and keep a daily log of what you notice.

2. Catch yourself living on Autopilot: we’re habitual creatures by nature, and you may realise as you take inventory of your situation that there isn’t anything keeping you in your rut other than habit.

3. Complacency can become a comfortable place: You know the ground well enough and can navigate it without really paying attention. Staying there too long can mean trouble, it’s very easy to lose the ability to respond to change.

If your life has become too complacent, shake things up a bit. Take a new course, volunteer, learn a new skill — do something different from your usual routine.

4. Practice giving yourself permission to be enough! This is one of the hardest things to follow through on, but it’s definitely the most rewarding. It’s so easy to look in the mirror and critique yourself from head to toe.

But, instead of counting all the things you wish you weren’t, try this Louise Hay affirmation.

Put a copy up by the mirror and practice it each day.

I Love My Body
My body is a glorious place to live. I rejoice that I have chosen this particular body because it is perfect for me in this lifetime. It is the perfect size and shape and color. It serves me so well. I marvel at the miracle that is my body. I choose the healing thoughts that create and maintain my healthy body and make me feel good. I love and appreciate my beautiful body!
Remember that it’s your own opinion that really counts.

5. Do Something you Love
Do the thing that lights up your soul. Autumn is a lovely time to add in new pleasures to your life. Take a simple an inventory of your health and wellness practices and resolve to do something you’ve never tried before, perhaps something you have been thinking about for some time.

Begin slowly, one change at a time and add to it along the way.

How about just stretching for 10 mins every morning while your coffee brews?

Julia Cameron offers the idea of “artist dates” as a weekly ritual. Think of it as a time of renewal for your spirit and emotional wellbeing. A block of time 1 or 2 hours a week you choose an excursion or a play date with yourself that you preplan and defend against all interlopers.

We all put things off… I am a Queen at this 🙂

We all make lists and say “tomorrow we’ll start.” (I have the lists to prove it!)

We all can find “justifiable” reasons for putting off the “thing” that makes sense in the moment.

Yet, there comes a point when we simply need to step up and just take some action.

If we want to make things happen, we have to do the one thing that we can do.

Free yourself and just start something, anything at all!

Work with Me!

Are you ready to make this year, the one where you intentionally make better and more empowered choices for yourself?
To risk more, to be wiser, more committed to changing your life for the better?
Would you love some support and accountability to start accomplishing more of what you say you want to do, and you’d love some guidance for where to begin?

Here’s your chance to stop settling, to discover and create what it is you really want in your life. Let’s just talk and see how we can work together, and get you clear, confident and back in the Game!

Isn’t it time you discovered and claimed what your heart longs for.

Please do GET IN TOUCH with me here, I’d be delighted to talk to you.


Speak Your Mind